Social Distancing in Ramallah, I Worry About Our Elderly Mothers in N.Y.C. and Gaza

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Palestinian men unload yogurt from a truck in Ramallah - all the shelves in the supermarket were fully stocked.
Palestinian men unload yogurt from a truck in Ramallah - all the shelves in the supermarket were fully stocked. Credit: Umm Forat

I'm an Israeli lawyer, Jewish, married to a Palestinian resident of Ramallah. After years of wandering throughout the world, we returned to the West Bank with our two children, 5-year-old Forat and 2-year-old Adam. We are trying to lead ordinary lives in an extraordinary and unforgiving reality, one that I will share with you here. (click to read all previous posts). I have changed the names of people in the blog, including my own. "Umm Forat" means "Mother of Forat" in Arabic.


On March 23, the first day of the curfew in the West Bank, I went for a morning run on the western edge of Ramallah. The Palestinian Authority had banned people from leaving home, except for essential work or to buy food or medicine. I hoped that running was allowed. Or that the police cars patrolling the main streets wouldn’t see me.

It was quiet. Here and there, a car drove by. Stray dogs slept in the street. I saw a woman standing in her front yard, dressed in a bathrobe and smoking a cigarette. I smiled at her as if we were best friends who hadn’t seen each other for years. “It’s good to see someone,” I said apologetically, and she laughed.

Construction sites that had operated the day before were now still. In one of the half-finished apartment buildings, a worker appeared in the window. I waved to him from below. He said he was from Haris, a village in the northern West Bank near Salfit, where one of the coronavirus cases had been discovered. “I’ll sleep here until we can go back to work,” he said.

At the end of my run, I went to the supermarket to buy milk. Two men dressed in white protective suits and blue masks unloaded crates of yogurt from a truck. The shelves were well-stocked. At a pharmacy near our house I even found hand sanitizer. For some reason, in Palestine, people believed that basic goods would remain available – and so they remained available. 

At home, Osama shut himself in a room to teach courses to his students virtually. Forat, dressed in a Wonder Woman costume, cut a spool of purple yarn into strips and distributed them among 10 bowls she had set up in the living room.

“Lunch, children!” she called to the stuffed animals sitting in front of each bowl. Her brother Adam raced to bring his giant red bear and sat him in front of one of the bowls. “Teddy! Poon!” he said in Hebrew. Apparently Teddy likes to eat his purple spaghetti with a spoon.

In the afternoon, we went out to our garden. The neighbors’ children called to us from the apartment above. Their mother came out on the balcony without a hijab covering her hair, as if all the rules were different now.

“Umm Forat,” she called. “Can Mohammed and Sama come down?” A week before, I was begging her for playdates, hoping they would let me get work done. But at this point I felt collective responsibility. If the virus spreads here, the hospitals will collapse. 

“I’m sorry,” I told her, and she nodded and said, “Better that way.”

A market in RamallahCredit: Umm Forat

Osama finished teaching and called his family in the Gaza Strip, where the first two coronavirus cases were diagnosed this week.

“Mama, do you have a fever?” he asked. His 82-year-old mother had continued visiting neighbors in the Jabalia refugee camps, including neighbors who had returned from the umrah, the pilgrimage in Saudi Arabia, last month. Now she was coughing.

“They’re not convinced that the virus will reach them,” Osama told me after he finished talking to his sister and older brother, who are also in Gaza. “Like that guy from Salfit who came back from Pakistan. Instead of going into isolation, when he got home, the neighbors came to welcome him. And then the Health Ministry tested him and found he was positive.”

“People don’t understand?” I asked.

“They understand very well, but they think differently,” Osama said. Beyond mistrust of the authorities – Israeli and Palestinian – religion plays a role for some. “Ili maktub, maktub,” I said to Osama and added: “Kulshi min Allah.” What is written, is written. Everything comes from God.

“Maybe the curfew will help,” Osama said.

The mother of Yamen, Forat’s friend from kindergarten, called me, anxious: She doesn’t have time to even open the online lessons that Miss Chantal is emailing us, and how do they expect working parents to teach their children, and when Yamen goes back to kindergarten, she will lag behind the other children whose mothers don’t work and also, do we still need to pay tuition, even though there’s no school?

Our friend Hala called to ask if we wanted to hire her cousin as a babysitter. The cousin had come from Gaza as a companion for someone seeking medical care in the West Bank: “Her son was the only one in the family working, and he was making 15 shekels ($4) a day. Now that has ended, too,” Hala said. The thought of a babysitter was tempting, especially because I didn’t think the schools would resume before summer. “Maybe in two weeks, when the curfew ends,” I told her. If it ends.

It was two weeks before Passover. Last week, before they closed the Qalandiyah checkpoint between Ramallah/El Bireh and Jerusalem, I went to Jerusalem to withdraw money from the bank and buy kosher chicken. The supermarket hadn’t yet gotten its shipment of matzot, the traditional unleavened holiday bread. I would have to improvise something at home.

I wondered which of the new travel restrictions would be lifted when the threat of the virus ended and which would become permanent, as the Israeli authorities had done in the past. The separation barrier and the ban on Palestinians entering Israeli settlements had also been temporary responses to the second intifada in 2000, but they were never removed. I was sure Israel would reopen the Qalandiyah crossing, from which Palestinian workers and others enter Jerusalem, but I didn’t know if they would cancel the ban imposed this month on Israelis entering Area B of the West Bank, where Palestinian towns and villages are, or if they would renew the minimal travel they had allowed between Israel and Gaza. My world was shrinking, to the West Bank, to the Ramallah area, and to our apartment, where Forat celebrated each day we allowed her to remain in pajamas, and every 20 minutes I had to stop the children from hitting each other.

Adam ran to me. “Ima, wein auto blue?” he asked. “Where is the blue car?” but in Arabic, Hebrew and English together. I started to look for it and then realized he was making a joke. 

“Here it is!” He waved the toy car he had hid under the carpet, ecstatic and checking my reaction.

“Wow!” I laughed with him. I worried about my mother, confined to her apartment in New York City, and about Osama’s mother, who was not confined to her apartment in the Gaza Strip. I also felt immense gratitude that the children, Osama and I were not in any risk group, that we have a garden, and that I love my three partners in this confinement. 


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