Shaming Has No Place in the Synagogue

A new rabbinical ruling puts human dignity above the letter of the law. Will this extend to women's rights?

Yael Shahar
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Orthodox Jews pray at the Kehilat Bnei Torah synagogue on Shimon Agassi St., Jerusalem, Nov. 20, 2014.
Orthodox Jews pray at the Kehilat Bnei Torah synagogue on Shimon Agassi St., Jerusalem, Nov. 20, 2014.Credit: Emil Salman
Yael Shahar
Yael Shahar

Imagine that you are reading the Torah, for the first time in your life, in a packed synagogue. You’re nervous and acutely aware of the responsibility resting on you. After all: hearing the Torah read correctly, with the proper accents and punctuation, is a positive mitzvah (commandment) and it’s your job to make sure all present can fulfill that obligation. Now imagine that you make a mistake. Someone calls out the correct reading. You read it over again, correcting the mistake. But now you’re even more nervous. You make another mistake, which is followed by three or four voices from the crowd calling out the correct reading. By now, you’re lucky if you can get through a few lines without being pounced on by a dozen voices. How soon do you think you’ll want to try again?

This is the situation that a recent rabbinic ruling (psak halakhah) seeks to prevent. In an article in the halakhic journal "Tehumin," Rabbi Jonathan Raziel of Ma’aleh Adumim discusses the question of whether the listeners in synagogue should correct the reader, even when this could embarrass the reader. Raziel’s answer: Not embarrassing the reader takes precedence over hearing the Torah being read correctly.

This kind of question is typical of the dilemmas faced by halakhah (Jewish law): the need to preserve core values while providing for the actualities of life in an imperfect world.

The injunction against embarrassing one's fellow is implicit in the written Torah's commandment not to oppress one another (VaYikra 25:14). The Talmud (Bava Metzia 58b) extends this to oppressing another with words. While we are instructed to correct one another in the verse “You shall surely rebuke your colleague,” (VaYikra 25:17) the end of the verse, “and you shall not bear iniquity because of him,” is interpreted as a warning not to overstep the bounds of rebuke. Together, the two halves of the verse are taken to mean: rebuke, yes; but not to the point where you fulfill one commandment through the transgression of another.

Raziel argues that while the public reading of the Torah is d’rabbanan (a rabbinic law), the law against embarrassing another in public is d’oraita (a law from the written Torah) and so takes precedence.

Indeed, the sages of the Talmud considered embarrassing another in public to be a serious crime, akin to bloodshed (Bava Metzia 58b), and the Rambam includes embarrassing one's fellow as among the acts that cost a person his or her place in the world to come. This is not so much due to the consequences of the act, but its effect on the character of the person who habitually commits such acts. The disregard for another’s dignity reflects a lack of awareness of the worth of the other person, and this lack has spiritual consequences.

It is when we see someone doing something that we feel to be wrong that we are least able to see the other person as deserving of consideration. The Talmud relates (Baba Metzia 30b) that one of the reasons for the destruction of Jerusalem and the loss of sovereignty was that “they ruled in accordance with the strict letter of the law.” At first glance, this seems surprising: shouldn’t meticulous observance be a good thing?

The trouble is that in the real world, inhabited by real people in all their complexity, one can’t be meticulous about one commandment without being lax about others. The person who refuses to eat at her parent’s house because they don’t keep kosher may be meticulous about kashrut, but lax in respecting her parents; the man who refuses to sit next to a woman on a bus may be observing his conception of modesty, but be lax on not embarrassing a fellow human being. And what can we say about women being shouted down—and even arrested—for reading Torah at the Kotel?

Thus, the implicit criticism of the Talmud is that people during the last days of the Second Temple were meticulous about ritual observances at the expense of the more important—but more difficult—observances between man and man. Indeed, a story in the Talmud (Gittin 55–56) has it that the public humiliation of one man by another ultimately lead to a charge of treason being leveled by the Romans at the Jews of Jerusalem. Words can kill.

Halakhah is a compromise between ideals and real life situations. The truly great halakhic decisors are those who manage this compromise in ways that not only bring more kindness into the world, but also show others how to do the same. Sadly, it is much easier to practice the easiest—and most external—mitzvot (kashrut, skirt length, etc.) over the much harder mitzvot bein adam l'havaro (interpersonal commandments). But that too is a choice.

In our day, we hear far too many stories of judges “ruling in accordance with the letter of the law” at the expense of the dignity of others. It’s refreshing to see a ruling such as that outlined by Rabbi Raziel, which urges sensitivity toward others, even in a situation where meticulousness is integral to the observance of a mitzvah.

Yael Shahar divides her time between researching organizational dynamics and Talmud. She is the author of “A Damaged Mirror: A story of memory and redemption,” and a sought-after public speaker. Her writing on Jewish topics can be found at

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