‘My Soldier Son Killed Himself. He’s at the Bottom of the Bereavement Ladder’

Six bereaved families of Israeli soldiers who died by suicide talk to Haaretz about their memories, and about shame, self-flagellation and how the military and society can do better

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Esther Alexander. 'This time there was also a feeling that we could have saved him, but were simply unsuccessful.'
Vered and Yoram Dolev. 'Sometimes I’d tell myself that he was only thinking about it, that he didn’t mean it.'
Avshalom Aderet. 'For many years I blamed the army.'
Channah Granot. 'Had they only identified it in time and kept him away from that feeling and from his pain, that smart, handsome boy would have carried on with his life.'
Benny Marom. ‘Attributing a single parameter is childish. Not everyone who suffers from depression or abuse kills himself.’
Ofra and Hagai Hermesh. 'I would think why I didn’t hide the gun and how I didn’t see the early signs, and why I didn’t say anything to him.'



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