Israel cannot be compared to apartheid South Africa

Why not

And, having been the victim of Apartheid for so much of his life, he doesn't get distracted by the surface differences, but looks at the intentions and effects behind Israel's actions towards the non-Jewish population (those who have had their citizenship officially denied, and those who have official, if not really equal, citizenship) to draw his conclusion.

did you tell him that it has become legitimate for supporters of a major leagure soccer team to chant "death to Arabs", or that the water quota of jewish settlements in the occupied terrortories is much higher than that of arab villages? did you tell him that arab schoolchildren from east jerusalem have to circumvent a wall to go to school? did you tell him that the minister of the interior wants to build prison and imprison all african non-legal people, incuding nigerians, for not having a visa? did you explain to your friend that palestianians could have a legal state now if the israeli leadership were more adement about talking peace instaed of allowing semi legal building to contunue in the occupied terrotories?