The only solution I see is to live with your spouse without formally marrying. Married women are hostages to the traditional system of divorce. Couples could get virtually the same rights as married couples using, for example, New Family Organization's Common-Law Marriage ID s (tuedot zugioyut).
Police disperse hundreds in brawl in Kafr Manda, northern Israel (Haaretz)
from the article: Israeli rabbinical courts now must track men who won't grant gets