Jenna, unlike so many others on these boards you seem to be expressing yourself in an honest fashion, so let me respond to your "musings". The main reason why Israel behaves militarily the way it does is precisely to avoid the types of civilian casualties and infrastructure damage of which you speak. I know many Israelis, and some of them I dislike very much, but I've never met one that genuinely enjoys inflicting this type of damage on other populations. I know that such Israelis exist, and they are loathsome individuals, but the point is that they are very few and do not have anything to do with Israeli state policy. The reality of the world is that without a heavy military hand Israel would be destroyed by its enemies. I would very much like to see that reality changed, but until it is I'm afraid that there will continue to be infrastructure destruction and civilian casualties.
26-year-old sustains serious injuries in Tel Aviv stabbing (Haaretz)
from the article: Army to decide on lowering alert in north; Qassams hit Negev