It appears neither of you have been a combat situation -and have missed the news for the past decade. Just because someone is standing behind their spouse or children does not mean theat they are _not_ concealing a weapon. In fact, in this neighborhood, one's refusal of a direct order by uniformed soldiers to expose one's hands - while hiding behind innocent civilians is grounds for great suspicion. And, when a terror suspect refuses to leave a building, until a _stun_ grenade is thrown, is percieved as rushing a soldier the soldier's reasonable response is to drop the suspect. Please recall that no one else exiting the house was killed or wounded in that incident.
Germany sends suspected ISIS recruiter back to Spain (AP)
from the article: Orders were to capture militants alive - so why were they killed?