In Europe, most Jews are secular, if only because European rabbis are almost all Orthodox. To delay brit milah until 18-21 years of age, will not matter much to most European Jews. Only the orthodox will leave. I am very glad that my mother stood up to my father, and vetoed getting me circumcised. There are men circumcised in infancy who are angrier than you are, because what was done to them cannot be undone. 10 minutes of minor surgery can undo Nature at any age.
from the article: Europe's shudder at circumcision