You write "If Israel denies the humanity of the enemy, then Israel will cease to be Jewish." Unfortunately, Cipora, you are probably too late. Somehow, over the past few decades, Israel (or elements within Israel and the US) has convinced the Israeli and pro-Israeli public that recognizing the humanity of the 'enemy' (remember who is occupied and who is the occupier here) is tantamount to advocating the destruction of Israel. In other words, one cannot recognize the humanity of Palestinians without threatening the existence of the Jewish state. You have nicely summarized why peace will be difficult if not impossible, because Israel has worked so hard (and built so much of its power and international image) on denying the humanity of the Palestinian people that trying to reverse it now will leave Israeli society in complete disarray and confusion. Unfortunately, Israeli policies towards the dehumanized Palestinians have all but ended hope for a 2-state solution in favor of 1 state.
from the article: Dying of occupation - a case of cancer and the Israeli right