Not long after I moved to Israel in my early 20s, I was sitting at my desk at a different newspaper when an Orthodox man at the office asked me where my colleague was. When I mentioned that she was getting married, he responded with the two words that constitute what is possibly the most feather-ruffling Hebrew phrase a single woman can hear: bekarov etzlekh, literally meaning "soon by you."

This ostensible blessing, often rendered "im yirtzeh Hashem" [God willing] in Orthodox circles in English-speaking countries, expresses the hope that the target of this phrase should find her match imminently and hustle off to the huppah. (There's a masculine version of the phrase too – bekarov etzlekha – but I strongly suspect that's used less frequently than the feminine.)

The common practice of wishing singles an imminent marriage is the subject of a song by Avi Ben-Abu, a Mizrahi singer who is a former contestant on "Kohav Nolad," Israel's version of "American Idol." The lyrics include a reference to the Jewish custom of the groom's breaking a glass under the huppah: "Your heart is breaking, when are we breaking the glass / One day someone will show up and not leave / Only then might they stop saying: / Bekarov etzlekh."

As for my own experience, I think the reason I still remember the throwaway line at the office is that while I could have braced myself for being on the receiving end of such wishes at a wedding – probably the most common time Jewish singles are told they are expected to get cracking – I was startled, if not dismayed, to hear the comment in my workplace. In response to what I perceived as a condescending and tactless (if arguably well-intentioned) remark, I was flooded with uncharitable thoughts that pretty much boiled down to "Who do you think you are to make assumptions about whether, and how soon, I want to walk down the aisle?" I've been married for a decade now, and those two Hebrew words still rankle.

And so my advice is this: Just because you know what some Israelis say to the single friends of the bride or groom, that doesn't mean you have to say it too.

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